I have a few confessions to make. I hope you don’t mind me sharing. Perhaps you can relate to some of them.
I love blog posts where homeschool moms keep it real. I know that, for most of us, we enjoy homeschooling our children and want to highlight the many positives of being a homeschool family. However, omitting the unglamorous side can be crippling for new families who may think they’re the only ones experiencing tough moments.
So, to all the moms (and dads) experiencing any of the following, you’re not alone. Here are my twelve confessions.
1. It’s challenging.
Contrary to what people who haven’t a clue about homeschool think, homeschooling is not an easy job. When done properly, it takes a great deal of time, research, knowledge, preparation, discipline, patience, coordination, and proficiency. Whether purchasing a curriculum or making your own, the work that goes into ensuring your children are well educated is extensive. Some bad eggs may give homeschool a bad name, but for the rest of us, we put in that work!
2. It’s uncertain.
Truthfully, I believe there’s a season for everything. I don’t know when our homeschool season will end. Whether it ends after high school or next year, only the good Lord knows. Anything can happen. My kids may want to try out traditional school. Homeschool may be outlawed (Lord forbid!). Or, it may just stop working for us. All I know for certain is, at the moment, we’re enjoying this time and hope it lasts as long as God allows it to.
3. It’s lonely.
I’ve been blessed to meet and befriend other homeschool moms who invite our family to parties and playdates, but at its core homeschool is lonely. That’s because at the end of the day, it’s just me, my kids, and their curriculum. Being the primary teacher in my children’s life means sometimes I’ll feel isolated and overwhelmed. And while the truth is I’m not alone and this is the plight of every homeschool parent, it sure doesn’t feel that way during those tough moments.
4. I get unmotivated.
I don’t jump out of bed every morning and greet the day like Mary Poppins. Sometimes I’m unmotivated. Sometimes I dread the monotony that homeschool routines can often fall into. Sometimes I’m sad. Sometimes I’m sick. Sometimes I haven’t slept well. Sometimes I doubt myself. There are many motivation killers that can throw me off course at times. But I’ve learned that perseverance is what you do long after your motivation has left you.
5. I don’t know everything.
The truth is, I still have so much to learn. In fact, my boys are becoming smarter than me by the day. They’ve become experts on topics they’re passionate about and the beautiful thing is they’ve also become my teacher in that regard. As a homeschool mom, I’ve realized one of the best things I can do for my children is not to teach them everything, but to connect them to the resources they need to teach themselves.
6. We have tough days.
Most days are great, but some days my boys just won’t cooperate. Sometimes there are tantrums. Sometimes there’s defiance. Sometimes I wake up on the wrong side of the bed. Yes, crying, yelling and everything in between can be heard on any given day. We aren’t perfect homeschoolers.
7. Unschooling myself is hard.
Since I was trained by the good ol’ public school system, I constantly have to unschool myself so that I can open up more to the reality that we don’t have to sit in a classroom doing schoolwork every morning. There are other ways to learn. In fact, children are learning even when we’re not actively teaching them. Still, it takes time to accept that my children can learn even when I’m not standing at the whiteboard lecturing.
8. I don’t hate public school.
I always say I am not anti-public school, I’m pro homeschool. I am a product of public school. So is my husband. So are most of my friends. We all turned out just fine. I went to an excellent college, earned a degree, and even earned a professional degree. I know every public school story doesn’t end like mine, but I’m thankful we live in a country where education is free and accessible for anyone that desires it.
9. The house gets messy.
You can imagine the mess that accumulates when a family spends most of their time at home. Hey, we live here! In fact, the only time our home is spotless is when we have guests and everyone panics to “get the house together.” Yes, we have chores and cleaning schedules but somehow at the end of the day, it seems like every single item we own is covering the tables and floors.
10. I’m glad I didn’t buy a curriculum.
When we first started homeschooling three years ago, I used every free resource I could find for my then kindergartner. He learned to read, write, spell, and do arithmetic without a boxed curriculum. You can find the list of resources I used, here. Holding off on purchasing a curriculum offered more time to study how my son learns, which helped me choose a curriculum that best fit his learning style. Even better? The money we saved that year was put toward extracurricular activities and family trips!
11. My schedules are for show.
I have what I like to call my “ideal schedule” and then there’s reality. That reality becomes our routine. The difference? When I schedule things, it puts our family on a timeclock and makes everyone stressed. When I establish a routine, it invites spontaneity and allows the day to flow organically. Believe it or not, we used to have an alarm that sounded when it was time to move on to the next lesson, eat, have recess, etc. It wasn’t fun for any of us.
12. It’s rewarding.
This is such a cliché, but it’s true. I love learning more about my children, their strengths and weaknesses, their preferred method of learning, how they handle frustration, how they celebrate accomplishments, and more. I love seeing and being a part of their progression. I love spending the day with them. They are my little buddies!
Now that I’ve got that off my chest, it’s worth mentioning even though some negative moments are highlighted here, the positive moments definitely hold more weight. I don’t know who needs to hear this but it’s okay to be human. In everything, we must embrace our challenges and allow them to serve as beautiful teaching moments.
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What are your homeschool confessions? Let me know in the comments below!